Older men date younger women for many reasons. But one thing’s for certain: Most of these relationships won’t last. Here’s why.
1. Fantasy love fades. Usually within a year. At first, the geezer is in love with her looks and youthful spirit. Eventually, he realizes all they have in common is a roof over their heads, and he’ll be off to look for a relationship with substance.
2. Geezers may feel younger, but dating younger women won’t make them younger. No matter how hard older men try to make the wrinkles disappear, the darn things keep showing up in the mirror.
3. Older men and younger women use each other, similar to a business arrangement. He’s got money, assets, power, and security; she’s got youth and beauty. If the money runs out, or someone richer comes along, she’ll break the lease, leaving him with an empty wallet and his arms around a tree.
4. OK, maybe she’s not using him. Perhaps she loves him because he’s more patient, laid back, mature, gentle, and understanding than men her age. Still, she’s likely considered his bucks at some point. I mean, you don’t see younger women with destitute older men, do you?
5. Different energy levels. At 10 p.m., he’s wearing pajamas and falling asleep with a book in his hands and glasses on his nose. She’s got on her dancing duds and is heading for the clubs. If he doesn’t keep up, she might seek someone younger who’s able to meet her needs.
As a current member of a situation as this (15 years her senior) I will admit what the writer said rings very true. Things can work, but you have to work at them as well, just like anything else, but with much greater care in situations like this.
I love and adore the young lady I am currently matched with, but for me it was one last chance after waiting and looking (while celebate for a decade ~ and I ain’t gonna do THAT again!), and then a beautiful gal entered my life and we’ve done right by eachother until just recently. My father just died and when I tried to talk to her about it she didn’t say she was sorry and just talked about a trip she wanted to take (with 5-6 ******* around, and some chics she ‘met’ off FB – go figure) and it became evident that the things mulling around in my head for years now from my earlier years (she was 40 and I was 23 – cougar attack, which was really, really fun) and with what goes on, how life is, how everything factors and gets slammed together to create our not only immediate but personal worlds – it seems people grow apart due to many factors and they don’t know how to work at it, or if they do, the other still wants what the ‘child’ wants, no matter what age.
The best thing to do is be open and entertain and grow with eachother, and even though they may be tempted to stray, you still have to entertain them, keep them interested and respected and just be real. If they leave, maybe the just don’t like you or you were just a whim, or they tapped you out, whatever the reasons… sometimes you have to lead them while still remembering what is was like to be that age.
At times it’s tough, but if the love is really there and the younger is mature enough, believe me, the rewards are immense and fantastic, just don’t get stuck in the parent/child/teacher/student mode. GET OUT THERE AND HAVE FUN! : ) Learn together and make the bonds strong and cherish every moment because magic does occassionally still happen in this world, which is a little refreshment when it’s needed the most, and if it’s going on don’t ruin a good thing. Never neglect them. Not from work, nothing because even though you may know better – they don’t and you have to again recall what it was like @ that age and believe me having a good job is great, but know when to draw the line!)
We were thrust together by bad situation by bad situation and I’ve done my best to rescue, protect and teach her and she’s done great… but she’s not dumb by any means and I almost fooled myelf, until recently when I applied my master unto her and viola! I had to draw it out of her, though she bit like a snake which she later realized tipping me off. It was good for a long time and relaxing and fulfilling for both of us, but right now while the chips are down she’s not really there for me.
Ahhh… youth. Reminds me of…….. how thing’s repeat themselves, hmmm……
CAIO!
MTTO : )
That was one of the most stereotypical things I’ve ever read. What do you base your opinions on?
Hi Michelle,
tell me why else older man would hook up with a younger woman? nobody is a Michael Douglas.