Improving your body language can make a big difference in your skills, fitness, appearance and frame of mind. There is no specific advice on how to use your body language. What you do might be interpreted in several ways, depending on the surroundings and who you are talking to. You’ll probably want to use your body language differently when talking to your boss compared to when you talk to a girl/guy you’re interested in. These are some common interpretations of body language and often more effective ways to communicate with your body.
First, to change your body language you must be aware of your body language. Notice how you sit, how you stand, how you use you hands and legs, what you do while talking to someone. You might want to exercise in front of a mirror. Yeah, it might seem ridiculous but no one is watching you. This will give you good feedback on how you look to other people and give you and chance to practice a bit before going out into the world.
You might also want to observe your friends, role models, movie stars or other people you think has good body language. Observe what they do and you don’t. Take a bits and pieces you like from different people. And try using what you can learn from them.
Tips for positive Body language for women
Don’t cross your legs or arms
You have probably already heard you shouldn’t cross your arms as it can make you appear suspicious or secured. This goes for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open.
Have eye contact, but don’t look intently
If there are some people you are talking to, give them all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they are listening. Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem unsure of yourself. If you are not used to keeping eye-contact it might feel a little firm or frightening in the beginning but keep working on it and you’ll get used to it.
Relax your shoulders
When you feel nervous it’s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to untie up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them back slightly.
Nod when they are talking
Nod once in a while to sign that you are listening. But don’t overdo it and peck like Wood-pecker.
Don’t bend, sit up straight
Sit up Straight but in a relaxed way, not in a too tense manner.
Wear Smile and laugh
Cheer up, don’t take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don’t be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and disadvantaged. Smile when you are introduced to someone but don’t keep a smile plastered on your face, you’ll seem hypocritical.
Use your hands more confidently
Instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say. Use your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make. But don’t use them to much or it might become disturbances. And don’t let your hands wave around, use them with some control.
Keep a good attitude
Last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and can make a major variation. For information on how make yourself feel better read the ways to change how you feel and for relaxation try a very simple way to feel relaxed.
Take a couple of these body language bits to work on every day for 4 to 5 weeks. They should have developed into new habits and something you’ll do without even thinking about it. If not, keep on until it sticks. Then take another couple of things you’d like to change and work on them.
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