Couples can Read this book Before you take the Plunge into matrimony! A pre-marital ‘MOT’ for couples to take before formally tying the knot has been devised to help reduce soaring divorce rates. This book is not only available in paperback but is now an e-book!
The book is written by Susan Jane Smith living in The Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire, England targeted to people all over the world. Many foreign newspapers publish in English so that couples can take advantage of her experience as a counsellor and divorce mediator no matter where they live in the world.
You can live in Bangalore or Venezula and buy Pre-Martial MOT: A Relationship Inspection to check out the dynamics of your life as a couple. Working on your communication skills is vital for all couples.
High profile cases in which ex-husbands have been forced to pay huge sums to their former wives could discourage people from marrying. “But the key, is avoiding in the first place, some of the pitfalls which can lead to divorce. If couples talked to each other more effectively about their relationship before marrying, then it might help reduce divorce rates,” says Sue, who has based the ‘MOT’ on her professional experience. “I have spent 20 years and over 8,000 hours as a counsellor listening to hundreds of people who are experiencing the pain of failing relationships. This has given me an insight into the most common problems.”
Pre-Marital MOT: A Relationship Inspection deals with the issues that can cause problems in relationships, such as sex, money and parenting, as well as raising less obvious ones, like attitudes towards housework, holidays, pets and paying the bills. It also includes questionnaires on personal qualities and character traits and ‘fun’ tests for both partners to answer – all designed to help couples put their relationship under the spotlight!
“Spring and summer are traditionally the most popular times for weddings,” says Sue, also a former Professional Practice Consultant for the UK College of Family Mediation. “But too much emphasis is put on the ceremony and reception, rather than on what it means for your life in the future. It’s very easy to get caught up with the romance of it all, and forget about what really matters”.
Do not live together, conceive children together or set your wedding date until you have talked to each other about the contents of this MOT! “You need to agree on all sorts of matters or have found a way to resolve any issues so you are truly committed to the relationship prior to the marriage ceremony.” The problem, says Sue, is that many people tend to assume their partner sees life the way they do and so will share their pattern of behaviour. Seemingly trivial things, like the ritual of Sunday lunch or sleeping with the bedroom window open, can undermine relationships if expectations are unacceptably different.
People can buy Pre-Marital MOT: A Relationship Inspection by ordering it at a bookshop, on Amazon, or via Sue’s website: www.EmotionalHealthForEmotionalWealth.co.uk
There will be a blog by Sue available on 12th May at www.AuthorsElectric.co.uk so do take a look if you are hearing wedding bells.