Megha Mukherjee, our guest writer, a proud Army Wife and a Proud Mother of a two-year old girl gives here her valuable tips for couples on How to Save their Marriage and live in harmony …
Before getting married, everyone dreams of a perfect marriage, a happily-ever-after situation with their spouse. But a dream turns into a nightmare, when you find yourselves brawling over little things in life. And then you see a doting couple next door and wonder how they seem so happy.
Are you too going through a rough patch in your marriage?
So why not start afresh and attempt to set the things right again, by doing things you missed to do earlier. Know how!
Learn to respect everything about each other, your differences, families, food habits and practically every little thing you can think of. Making fun of your spouse’s family or other things in anyway, can be really hurtful to them and when you get it back, you would have a tough time taking it as well.
“Understand before you nag”. Try understanding why your spouse could not make it for a movie/match, or why does he/she seem less intimate in sex lately. Instead of blaming each other and saying” You don’t love me anymore!” Probe as to why this is happening? It could be a stress related factor, which can be resolved mutually with time.
No matter how bad things get, never stop communicating. After a fight, many couples won’t talk for days even weeks, waiting for each other to initiate the talk. Cooking separately, sleeping in different rooms, snubbing each other is a complete kiddie’s act.
A mature approach is to break that ego and talk about your problems. Not talking and ignoring each other staying in the same house is like preparing yourselves to stay without each other. And then you ask yourself “How did you let it go so easily?”
Emotional Drama -No No!
This is for all the women out there.
Sometimes we all are unhappy and hurt and it’s fine to vent out and express your emotions through crying. But playing a victim always and making it a tool to get your demands approved by your man is preposterous. Yes, men are gullible to tears but an overdose of it may make you lose your credibility for the next time.
Handle Your Money Wisely
“My neighbour bought a necklace, I want one too!”
Never compare your lives with those around you, your friends or relatives. Comparing what other couples have and you don’t, will only make you more unhappy and miserable.
If you can afford it, go ahead but if you can’t, remember financial problems play a major role in disturbing your harmony and in the long term, such behaviour is not healthy for a happy married life.
If you realize you are wrong in a situation, apologize right away. Saying sorry doesn’t make you any different but resolves the situation and dissolves the anger.
Trust Trust Trust! To find true peace in married life, trust your spouse!
Sneaking on text messages, phone calls, and other things, while he/she is away could be really annoying for them. This overtly suspecting behaviour could provoke your spouse to hide things from you, which of course, is not a good sign for the relationship.
Keep the Romance Alive
Never let the romance factor die, and what could be better than expressing love to your better half by doing small things, in daily life. And everyone knows how to do that!! ;)
There is no ideal marriage in this world; we all have our little secrets and flaws!
But it’s never too late to try mending what you have left behind…
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